My family has a history of hypertension and high blood pressure . I recently went to a doctor for my annual checkup and she was please with my overall physical health , however , she told me my blood pressure was a bit high for her liking . My doctor told me that I would need to add an exercise regimen into an already busy schedule .
Releasing the Pressure
Dear Releasing The Pressure ,
Health challenges such as yours require a lifestyle change in order for you to stay healthy ... or even alive . Yes , this may seem daunting , but it is true . High Blood blood pressure is called "the silent killer" because it commonly has minimal symtoms , yet it can and has caused stokes in the thousands of unknowing victims . Doctors do suggest that exercise , healthy eating and weight loss can significantly reduce or even eliminate high blood pressure ... in some people . Even if high blood pressure doesn't go away , these things are good for you .
Will it be hard to add daily movement into a tight schedule, that did not previously include physical activity ? Sure . You have to decide that your life is worth living . Once you do , get support by joining a walking group , a gym , Weight Watchers or some other group activity that will keep you sincere about your developing routine .
My boyfriend called me to tell me about his long-distance "girlfriend" -- I say that loosely because he has seen her only once . He told his phone friend that he is seeing someone in the same city he lives in and she was not pleased with my man's confession . She insisted that he dissolve our relationship immediately , but I was so happy that he did not listen to her . Going forward , how can we continue to reinforce out relationship ? I like what we have together .
Dear Budding Relationship,
It's a good sign that your boyfriend told you about his phone relationship . Find out more from him about what this woman means to him and whether he intends to stay in touch with her . Express to him how much you are enjoying the time you are spending together . Make it clear to him that you want to see how your relationship blossoms and that you are excited about the possibilities . Add that you do not want to be in the middle of another relationship . Ask him directly if he is finished with this woman and if he chooses to be with you .
I live in an apartment building with pretty thin walls . There is always noise coming from somewhere . Recently , an upstairs neighbor started singing every afternoon around the same time I come home from work . And you guessed it , she can't sing a lick ! Plus she is loud as all-get out . It's nuts . I know it is her right to sing , but I can't find a moment of peace now , what with hearing her acting like she about to go on stage . What can I do ?
Killing me loudly
Dear Killing me Loudly ,
You can make a detour on your way home from work and buy a white noise machine . This should help diminish the sound of the noise coming from above . you can also delay your arrival by doing someting fun . If you show up later, you may miss this concert and discover a new hobby at the same time . If she persists past your breaking point , you can knock on her door and very kindly ask her if she could put a rug on the floor directly above you so it can absorb some of the noise .
I have a 30-year-old son "Brad" was the prefect child , loving and affectionate until the age of 16 .
That's when I divorced my drug-addicted husband . I sheltered the children as much as I could from what their father was doing.
When I transferred Brad to a public school , he got involved in drugs , quit school , became verbally abusive , did a stint in jail and more . I remarried a wonderful man who showed Brad nothing but love . Any disciplining was done by me .
When I found out Brad was doing drugs at age 21 , I kicked him out the house . He abused steroids and who know what else .
He blames me for the way he is because I kicked out . He claims no mother would do that . I told him it's "tough love" and that I refuse to watch him destroy himself .
I have not spoken to Brad in 5 months . Christmas and my birthday has come and gone with no acknowledgement . My heart is just so broken . Should I reach out to him or let him figure out life on his own ? Do I wish him a happy birthday next month ? I don't know what to do any more .
Dear Brokenhearted ,
Tough love can also be tough on the parents . You did nothing wrong by expecting your adult son to move out of the house .
Even kids who are not abusing drugs ought to leave the nest by then . Brad finds it easier to blame you for what is wrong with his life than to accept responsibility for his own actions .
Until he figures it out , all you can do is wait and hope . But you can send him a birthday card and also find support from others in your situation through ... Because I Love You at ( bily.org ) Good Luck .