I am a 58-year-old male . Ever since my early 20's I've been confused about which sex I truly am . Of course I was born a male, but my thoughts and feelings are that of a female . There is nothing about being a male that interests me . I'm thinking of getting hormone shots to become more female .
I've lived with this issue all my life, but maybe it's to late for me now . Do you have any suggestions or information ?
Unknown Gender
Dear Unknown ,
It is not to late for you to work on this, and I recommend you get more information before starting hormone shots .
You can find resources and support through the Lesbian, Gay , Bisexual and Transgender Community Center (gaycenter.org) and the American Psychological Association (apa.org), which can answer many of your questions and point you in the right direction .
Maxy
Dear Maxy ,
I have been romantically interested in a girl for about six months . We have a lot in common and I feel more connected to her than I have anyone else . I think we would make a great couple . Unfortunately, she has a boyfriend . I still flirt with her on occasion . She doesn't tell me to stop, but she also doesn't reciprocate, even though I've told her my feelings . Should I give up hope of us being together and try to be just friends, or should I pursue the matter further ?
Flirty
Dear Flirty ,
If you are seriously interested in this young lady , select one more occasion to make your intentions known to her . Tell her you know she has a boyfriend and you do not want to be disrespectful of their relationship . For this reason you want to be clear with her one more time before backing off . Tell her you care deeply for her and want to have a chance to prove it to her . Say that you think she would be happier with you , and be prepared to enumerate your reasons for thinking this .
Ask her if she is willing to end her relationship so she can be free to be with you . If she says no or if she says nothing, that is your cue to walk away . You should not continue to flirt with her . You should be respectful and keep your distance . If, however, she says she wants to give a relationship with you a chance, tell her you will give her space to make a clean break from her boyfriend, after which, you will be waiting for her . Then step back until she is ready .
Maxy
Dear Maxy ,
My boyfriend and I have gotten serious in recent months . We have even begun to talk about getting married . I love him and I know he loves me . But we do not practice the same religion .
I go to church every Sunday, plus I am involved in other activities in my church . He has come a few times and is quite respectful , but he is Jewish and is actively involved in his temple. We have not told our parents about our religious differences . They like the two of us as a couple, but regardless of what they say, we aren't sure how to handle a marriage if we have kids . Should I give up before we get too involved ?
The Great Divide
Dear The Great Divide ,
Couples have been known to work even when they do not share the same religion . It definitely takes some effort and clarification on both your parts as to what shared values you have, what you will teach any children you may have and how you will navigate both religions . You need to come to terms before talking to your parents . Seek the counsel of spiritual advisers for support .
Maxy
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