Thursday, December 19, 2013
I just finished watching a piece on the news about young people assaulting others and calling it a game . It seems they walk up to people and throw the hardest punch they can to the face in an effort to knock someone out .
In one instance, a man was hit so hard, he fell face first to the curb and fractured his skull . He died and the person who hit him was charged with manslaughter . The kids being interviewed were all laughing about it, as if it were some sort of party .
The sad part is that they are raised as if their actions have no consequences . Parents, teach your children before it's to late .
Dear Adult ,
It's sad to see a world where children think assault is a sport, where the constant media barrage publicizes and glamorizes violence and where these immature teens either don't understand the consequences of their actions or think prison is simply another badge of toughness . We doubt they'd find this activity so much "fun" if the victim was someone they cared about .
We've forgotten how to be civilized to one another, nor do we value it . Parents not only need to teach responsibility to their children, but they have the added burden of combating the multiple pernicious influences around them . It's hard to raise kids these days and I commend those parents who manage to do it well .
Dear Maxy ,
I have a friend who often asks : "What's happening ?" But when I attempt to tell her, she rudely interrupts and says, "It don't want to hear about it !" It doesn't matter what the subject is . She even interrupts for others, saying, "She doesn't want to hear about it !" She also cuts me off mid-sentence and finishes my thoughts for me . Attempting to carry on a conversation with her is hurtful and I find her to be rude .
However, If the conversation centers on her, it can go on forever . Also , if she is trying to impress people, no matter how boring the conversation, she hangs on to every word . I have to deal with this "conversation bully " often . How am I suppose to handle her ?
Dear Hurting ,
You are already aware that your friend is self-centered and only interested in conversation that is somehow beneficial to her. When she asks, "What's happening ?" she doesn't really want to know . It's simple her way of saying hello . Here are your options : You can tell your friend how rude this is and ask her to be more considerate ; you can restrict your conversation to topics that stroke her ego ; you can find other friends .
Dear Maxy ,
I just lost a lot of weight and want to get rid of clothes that don't fit anymore .
I have a friend who is about the size I used to be . have a lot of great suits and dresses and different things she may like .
I am unsure of how to bring it up to her so that I don't offend her .
Sometimes people get weird around weight loss . Do you think I should offer the clothes to her ?
Dear Giving Spirit ,
It is fine for you to contact your friend about giving her clothing . What you should not do is emphasize your weight lost . Tell her that you have identified a number of clothing items that you want to give away and that you thought she might want them .
If she is interested, arrange a time to show or share them with her . By leaving your weight out of it, you make it easier for her to be comfortable .