Dear Maxy ,
I am dealing with jealousy issues at work that I do not know how to handle . My time is split between commuting to the office and working from home . My colleagues have complained that I have a better life because I am not stuck in the office five days a week . How can I change their perception because I do the same amount of work .
Want To Be A Team Player
Dear Want To Be A Team Player ,
You may not be able to change your colleagues' perception of you . If they are jealous that you work from home when they don't, you can easily rectify that . What you can do is show them how present you are . For example, when you are working from home , for a while, choose to be less independent. Include them on video calls or traditional conference calls with more regularity . Call them up and run ideas by them for the projects that you share . The point is for you to choose to be more closely connected to them , even though you are in different places . One of the benefits that people experience when they work in the same space is that they can bounce ideas off each other and generally enjoy the camaraderie of being together . Do your best to cultivate that type of connection with them .
Old friends of the family are coming to spend Christmas week with my husband and me, and we are thrilled to host them . The only problem is that we have a family tradition where we go to our annual midnight church service on Christmas Eve and our friends do not want to go . Do we skip our annual activity in order to be good hosts ? What should we do ?
Dear Host Blues ,
Especially during the holidays, it is important for hosts and guests to be flexible . Just because your friends are coming to visit does not mean that you have to be by their side every minute of their stay . What you do is to manage their expectations by letting them know the itinerary for their stay ... what you are already planning to do and some options that might be fun for them to do solo and/or with you and your husband . This includes your midnight Christmas Eve service . But it may also include other activities . Talk to your friends about what they would like to do while they are in town . While you don't have to be a tour director, it would be great for you to research a series of options of seasonal activities around town and make recommendations . Be sure to leave space for unstructured time too . The best visits include together time and time alone, relaxing .
Dear Maxy ,
I received an offer online to buy a luxury item at a discount for the holidays . I was so excited because it meant that I could purchase it for my daughter , who has wanted that item for so long . I quickly typed in all my information and clicked away .
Later , I thought about it and am worried that I may have given my bank information to a phony company . The offer was almost to good to be true .
I feel like an idiot . I am usually pretty careful . What can I do to protect myself in case this company tries to take my money ?
Dear Possibly Duped,
Check your bank account religiously to see if any unusual purchases have been made . Verify that the purchase you authorized has gone through as well . Contact your bank and alert it to the situation . It may suggest that you close out your card and get another . Follow the bank's protocol . When you work with your financial institution immediately , you stand a better chance of being protected .