Dear Maxy,
My best friend invited me to go on vacation with her and her family this summer, free of charge . She knows that my funds are limited and that I could never pay for this trip myself . I think that it's really nice hat she would make such a generous invitation, but I feel weird about it . I will hardly have money for incidentals during the trip . It feels weird to be a freeloader, even if it is my friend . Her parents are cool about it . I know they have taken friends on trips with them before, like when we were in college, but we've been out of school for two years now . They are not showy people, so I don't think they will make me feel bad . They love me . We have been friends for 10 years . What do you think I should do ?
Broke Guest
Dear Broke Guest ,
Given the way you describe your friend and her parents, it seems that they genuinely want to include you in their family vacation . Indeed, it sounds like they are including you as a family member .
In order for you to say yes, though you have to make peace with the idea and put aside your pride. Then speak to your friend and thank her for the invitation . Be clear about how happy you are that they are being so generous . Admit to her that you will likely not have much spending money because your finances are very tight at the moment . If she understands, and I think she will, go and have a great time .
Maxy
Dear Maxy ,
My daughter applied to 11 colleges and she was accepted to all of them . The colleges are mostly on theEast Coast, and we are trying to figure out which college will be best suited for our child . It is such a blessing to know that my husband and I do not have to take out additional loans, but we are concerned because we want to make the right decision regarding our daughter's education . How do we decide where she should go ?
Going to College
Dear going to College,
Congratulations on so many acceptances . You should be very proud that your daughter is so desirable to these schools . I will caution you, however, that unless each acceptance came with an official scholarship offer, you cannot assume that you will not have to pay for her education . Acceptance and admission represent only the first steps in this process . Next is paying for it .
Read the paperwork carefully and identify which schools are offering financial support . If you need the support, weed out any schools that are not offering your daughter money . Of the ones that are left, review the curriculum of each school with your daughter to identify which ones have courses in her areas of interest . To the best of your ability, help your daughter select a school that will educate her based on what she believes she wants to study . This will help ensure that she has a successful college experience. And I am sure it will be wonderful.
Best of luck,
Maxy
Dear Maxy ,
I'm a high school student in a small town and I'm really scared for my health .
My maternal grandmother died of breast cancer and she left behind three daughters two of whom have daughters of their own . There's a high chance that my mother, aunts , cousin or I will have breast cancer as well .
I'm scared to the bone of this disease and I'm always nervous that my self-exams aren't terribly accurate . I've talked to my mom about getting a professional exam or even a mammogram, but I always feel like she avoids the subject . Is there anyway I can get an exam without my mother knowing ? If not , how can I convince her to get me one ?
Worried
Dear Worried ,
While having a close relative who has had breast cancer can increase your risk factor, it doesn't necessarily mean that anyone else in your family will get it . A small percentage of the population carries the BRCA1 or BRCA2 gene and if Grandma had this, your mother should speak to her doctor about genetic testing . Otherwise your risk is no greater than any girl your age .
But I agree that an exam might put your mind at ease . Ask your mother to make an appointment for you with a gynecologist . If she refuses, you can talk to your pediatrician about this at your next appointment, or contact Planned Parenthood (planned-parenthood.org) for information . Most adult women get a mammogram every one or two years. Keep up the self exams; they are important and you would notice any prominent abnormality. Survival rates from breast cancer have been steadily climbing since 1989. This is the result of earlier detection through screening and increased awareness among women. Also the treatment has improved in leaps and bounds.
Don't be frightened,
Maxy
PIC,
ReplyDeleteThe guys wanted you to have this they found it on AOL so you can find it on Huff Post Science or goggle it .
Astronomers spot Kepler-186f, the most Earth-like planet yet
Scientists Spot Most Earth-Like Planet Yet
Astronomers have discovered an Earth-like planet that may have the capability to sustain life.
By ALICIA CHANG
LOS ANGELES (AP) -- Astronomers have discovered what they say is the most Earth-like planet yet detected - a distant, rocky world that's similar in size to our own and exists in the Goldilocks zone where it's not too hot and not too cold for life.
The find, announced Thursday, excited planet hunters who have been scouring the Milky Way galaxy for years for potentially habitable places outside our solar system.
Your Friend
PIC,
ReplyDeleteI left Ardis a note on Maxy... when I check Maxy this morning the post was in drafts , it was schedule to post at 12:01 as usual .
I checked to see what time Maxy posted on FTBB and it was 11:16PM Wednesday night . ..
I will start checking Maxy before going to bed or first think thing when I get up on Thursday mornings .
Your friend and PIC
PS:
Your Birthday post will post at 12:0!1 from the cubs
Thanks PIC and please thank my two junior scientists. This is something that I am very interested in and I think I will do a post on it. This could be the new earth. Very exciting stuff.
ReplyDeleteSee you soon
Luv you and my cubs.
Hi PIC,
ReplyDeleteI had to go bed pretty early and could not stay up to watch for Maxy to post , so I copied it while it was in drafts. I am pretty sure it threw the scheduling off somehow. My bad.
Won't do it again.
Your friend and PIC
That's okay if you did , I just wanted you to know he reads Maxy before he go to work.
ReplyDeleteI understand how things can happen and you do have a lot on your plate . I always check before retiring to bed , but I guess we both was tired last night . Just take care and rest my friend .
See you soon my friend
LUV PIC