Dear
Maxy ,
My
wife invited her 56-year-old-sister to stay at our house for a couple of days
and we gave her total access to the house . I needed to check my emails and I
went to the reading room where the family computer is located . When I opened
the door, I was shocked to see what was on the computer . My sister-in-law was
watching an adult movie . I wanted to yell at her, but my mouth shut beccause
of the shock . After I got my composure, I told my sister-in-law that she
cannot use our family computer without supervision . I do not have the time
to supervise an adult while she surfs the Internet . I like my sister-in-law
and I want her to continue to feel comfortable in our home . How can I prevent
anyone from visiting inapropriate adult content on my family's computer ? My
wife and I do not appreciate porn and do not ever have it in out home
.
Computer
blue
Dear Computer Blue
,
You can put parental controls on your
computer to ensure that no one can access adult content or any other content
that you deem inappropriate for your home . Go to ehow.com/how_6780583_put-parental-controls-laptop.html
for instructions . if you regularly have houseguests , you may want to tell them
to bring their own computer. Or, you can put a label on the home computer
saying "Please limit your Internet usage to X,Y, and
Z."
These measures could be extreme though
. It could be that your sister-in-law is an anomaly . You may simple need to
deal with her directly and make it clear to her that she crossed the line and
you do not appreciate it . Chances are she is embarrassed by being caught
watching pornography , so you do not need to beat her over the head with he
transgression .
Maxy
Dear Maxy
,
My
threee-year-old son is starting pre-school in a few weeks and he is excited
about going to school . He can use the bathroom on his own, but I am
wondering if I should pack a few diapers in his book bag to prevent any
potential accidents .
Momma's Boy
Dear Momma's Boy
Contact the preschool and ask what the
policy is . They may suggest that you not send diapers and talk to your son
about being a big boy and remembering to ask to go to the bathroom . Or they
may suggest that you pack diapers and give them to the teacher without your
son seeing them, so that extras are on hand in case of an accident but
your child doesn't know that crutch is there . Most important is for you to
make sure your son is comfortable as he takes this big step
.
Maxy
Dear
Maxy,
I
witnessed a huge argument between my brother and his wife when we last visited.
What was weird is that the next day they acted like nothing had happened . I am
single, in part, because this kind of stuff runs me crazy . How can you love
someone one minute and hate her guts the next minute . I don't understand it .
I want to ask my brother but I know that their marital issues are none of my
business . Do you understand this ?
Single and
Perplexed
Dear Singlr and
Perplexed.
Married people argue just like friends
argue . For those who have been married long enough, it is likely that they
have weathered any number of storms where they did not agree . What happens
afterwards is what truly counts after an argument . How people address the
issue that brought on the flare, how they talk to each other in the heat of
the moment and how they mend fences are the key . You argue without being mean
which is ideal . It is possible to apologize and make up . Further, you can
love someone forever but not like the person from time to time . As you look
for a healthy bond, pay attention to how you disagree and come back to a
loving place . If you cannot do that, you will not be successful in the long
term .
Maxy
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