Monday, November 08, 2010

The Controversial Costume That Outraged Moms .....But made a Little Boy happy

A good parent tells their child he can be anything he wants. Especially on Halloween. And that's just what one mommy blogger did. ...…
A good parent tells their child he can be anything he wants. Especially on Halloween. And that's just what one mommy blogger did. When her 5 year-old son got a hankering to be Daphne from the Scooby Doo gang, she bought him the red wig and the costume of his dreams. But she didn't bargain for the ridicule from moms at her son's nursery school Halloween party.

She writes: "Two mothers went wide-eyed and made faces as if they smelled decomp...Mom A says in disgust, “Did he ask to be that?!” I say that he sure did as Halloween is the time of year that you can be whatever it is that you want to be...And then Mom C approaches [and says that] I should never have ‘allowed’ this and thank God it wasn’t next year when he was in Kindergarten since I would have had to put my foot down and ‘forbidden’ it."

It's hard not to question every choice you make as a mom. But in this instance, the mommy blogger knew it wasn't her family with the problem. It was other mothers. And she wasn't going to stand for their bullying.
So she took to her blog and to defend her son. And came to one very strong conclusion: there's a double standard. "If my daughter had dressed as Batman, no one would have thought twice about it. No one."

The past few weeks, the struggles of young, gay men has become a serious issue. The expectations of others, especially for boys, can lead to agonizing and sometimes fatal circumstances. If anyone understands the need for equal rights to self-expression it's women. So why don't young boys have the same freedoms as young girls? Thanks to moms like these, some do.

"If a set of purple sparkly tights and a velvety dress is what makes my baby happy one night, then so be it. If he wants to carry a purse, or marry a man, or paint fingernails with his best girlfriend, then ok. My job as his mother is not to stifle that man that he will be, but to help him along his way. Mine is not to dictate what is ‘normal’ and what is not, but to help him become a good person."

The original Article prompted over thirteen hundred comments. Why did people get so upset about it?? This lady was not encouraging her son to be gay. She was allowing him to be whoever and whatever he wanted to be. And here is the key : she made him happy.

1 comment:

  1. Anonymous7:27:00 PM

    Jeannie,
    They have silly and stupid people everywhere , all parents tells their kids they can be anything they want to be .
    Holloween is a time for make believe and kids like to go as their favorite movie, cartoon or book character , this year Sha went as a princess and Jill went as Tom Sawyer right now that is her favorite and Jill is all girl and she tells us she is going to marry Jakey, I admire the mother blogger for leeting him be what he wanted to be.

    Jeannie, I put a letter in drafts for you.
    Nan

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